Good Morning, this is my first post in this forum, i am trying to figure out what i should do about the situation my brothers’ family is currently in.
My brother and his wife have 3 wonderful children who are well behaved and have been actively involved in Catholicism throughout their lives and currently attend Catholic school. My brother is a good person and has been technically married for nearly 18 years. His wife has been working her way up the Catholic church from teaching Cathechism and Sunday School and currently works for the Church. They both took vows in a Catholic Ceremony in a Catholic church and to my knowledge my brother was active within that church as well.
Roughly 5 years ago she banished him from the house over a money issue and he has been forbidden by her from entering the house ever since. He has had sleep apnea and had some depression issues from it, which have since been treated and the only depression issue he has now is that his family is in the midst of being torn apart.
He is a good person and does what he can for his kids.
He tried to resolve the issues in his marriage with counselling, to which she did not want any part in and he has even gone so far as to seek counselling within the church to no avail.
Within the past year she has been seen coming and going from another man’s house and slept over at this man’s house on Valentines Day 2009. My brother watched her leave the house the next morning as he was curious to wonder what in fact she has been doing with this other man. He waited all night to confirm what he saw. She told him they did not have sex, which he said she was obviously lying.
She is now seeking a legal separation in a community that does not have a Catholic church, most likely so she does not have anyone question her.
I have this inner turmoil within that is just giving me sleepless nights because she has been questioned by her children and has given them run-around answers. I know that ultimately her judgement will be with God, but how can she teach Sacraments when she is abusing her own religion.
My brother has repeatedly emailed the church and met with his Archbishop who will no longer return his emails or phone calls. I am absolutely stunned that she has been blatantly lying to her children, church, God and herself.
Does anyone have any suggestions or avenues i can take?