I have been married 16 years and I am really frustated with my relationship with my husband. I dont know if this is something that is just a phase or something I am doing wrong or something that I have to deal with for the rest of my life.
It seems that the only emotion I can have around him is happy or neutral. If I try to express my frustion, anger, sadness,disappointment or disagree with him he gets very angry and leaves me with our four daughters to contend with, by myself regardless of how I feel at the time.
He turns things around on me and puts words in my mouth that the reason I feel frustrated, angry, disappointed or sad is all HIS fault.
This not only applies when I feel this way, but even when our 2 and 3 year old cry and get upset. He becomes upset and says how bad a father he is and everything is HIS fault.
He says that everyone at work and at home and everywhere he goes disrespects him and we all make him feel he cant do anything right and its all his fault…
(he hates his job by the way)
I am walking on egg shells. I cant get any emotional support from him. I cant express myself . I am afraid to because he will get angry and leave(goes to bars and doesn’t come home). He has threatened to leave and has packed his bags on several occasions and then he calms down and apologizes.
He does say how much he loves me and loves our family but
He seems to have no tolerance for me or our family. There are good days but alot of bad days. I feel sooooooo alone. I feel like I am raising this family alone. Any advice or suggestions?