My father moved halfway across the country 20 years ago after a very, very nasty divorce from my mom. My dad hasn’t been the easiest person to get along with, I love him, but we have had some knock down arguments b/c he has a tendency to be controlling and I’m an independent, private person. Oh, and he’s Baptist and has been known to insult my faith. It hurts and makes me mad.
Now, I’m a grown woman with a family and a happy home life. My dad is almost bankrupt and is moving back to my home town to try to restart his business. He has been here 6 days and he’s already starting with me. I can’t even put into words how worried I am that he’s going to cause a big blow up. I have two young kids and I don’t want them experience what I did from him when I was a child.
He is living with us until he finds a place to live. What am I to do? Turn him out? No. I won’t do that, but he refuses to respect me, my routine and my preferences in my house. For instance I have a cleaning lady once a week and I asked (very politely) that everyone be out of the house while she’s here so that she can get her work done properly. He and my stepmom became angry that I was “kicking them out”. Then he doesn’t like our coffee pot so he bought one to have for his own coffee and plopped it right in the middle of our kitchen counter. Later in the day I asked him if he could move it somewhere else b/c I need the counter space, well he was miffed that I asked (nicely) to move it. He leaves boogery tissues around the house and used dental floss. It’s like if I ask him to pick up after himself or conform to our household he says I’m being disrespectful. It has been this way my.whole.life. Which is why I was relieved when my parents got divorced and he moved halfway across the country.
I need strength guys. Please ask God to get me and my family through this. It’s only temporary that he’ll live with us but we don’t know how long and in the mean time I’m walking on eggshells and it’s not a pleasant thing.
If you have any words of wisdom, encouragement I am all ears.
I went to confession today and asked the priest to help me, he suggested frequent mass, confession and carrying a rosary. I go to weekly mass, but maybe I need to go to a weekday mass and adoration. I always feel peace in adoration. I also sleep with a rosary on my bed b/c it gives me comfort.
I don’t know, I could really use your support in prayer. Thank you.