I’m really miffed because I have a mom who revels in being the “peacemaker” at all costs, even over loyalty to her own kids.
I feel so hurt lately again because my “pastor’s wife” mother, just revels in her role as always trying so hard to understand the other side, even at the expense of her own kids.
When one of my sisters divorced her husband, our mom would proudly announce how “she had an hour phone conversation with Tom” and how she really understands his side, etc., etc. Needless to say, this hurt my sis alot. Why did she do this in the first place?
Now, just this past week, I’ve been sick with the flu, something awful, causing me to miss a family reunion. Well, my MIL, has been sick too, and hospitalized as of late. (Now you all know, my MIL has not been the nicest person to me), etc., but sure enough, Mom announces how at MY family reunion, everyone got together and signed a get-well card for my MIL.!!! Yes, that’s right!!! I can just see her pushing it in everyone’s faces! This really hurt my feelings, as I’ve been so sick myself. And not only that but mom has made endless phone calls to me, during my sickness, to find out how my MIL is. I mean Geeeezzzz!
I’ve tried to just drop it, be polite, be courteous, and Christian-like and of course I wish my MIL better health too, but what is my mother’s problem? She’s always been this way. Always taken the other person’s side over her own flesh and blood. It’s very puzzling to all us kids. I don’t know if I should say something to her or not. She’ll say to my face how she’s sorry for me “having such a terrible MIL like I do”, then do a gesture such as this, the card thing. Guess some folks will never change. It goes on and on. Guess she prides herself on being the “peacemaker”. I really feel loyalty is a virtue. maybe she doesn’t.
Any thoughts? Thank you in advance for all your advice.