I really hope that people can offer me some wisdom or at least prayers. There is a girl at work who can sometimes drive me NUTS. She is very smart and good friends with my manager. I have to do the grunt work and she oversees some of my stuff. We have VERY different organizational methods. Since I do most of the grunt work, I tend to organize things my way. But when I need her help, she will act like my organizational method is wrong when in fact it is just different most of the time.
She is an OK person and she is smart. I am not blaming her I am simply trying to learn to work with different people. Well, every time I organize something differently and she asked about it she will say 'Why did you do it that way' Every time I hear 'Why' out of her I know it is coming. Her voice goes high and obviously FULL of annoyance and she makes me feel like I am stupid. So of course I get defensive (but try my best to be polite).
Well, today I had a stressful day where things just weren't working out. I needed her help and now I feel a bit stupid because if I had more time, I probably could have figured it out.
Well, we got into a big argument about what to name a file. She didn't see the point in renmaing it and I tried to explain to her, the name was not clear and that is why if we rename it, I never would have probably made the mistake in the first place. Well..... she kept saying it was a waste to rename it and I really did NOT see anything wrong with take 30 seconds to rename a file. Finally she gave up.
Well, as luck would have it, by renaming the file, the process further down the line got messed up. So I had to put it back to the original name. All I could think was 'Why didn't she say that in the first place instead of barking 'Why' for 10 minutes.
Nontheless, I felt I should let her know I was not going to change the name. So when I went to tell her, I said 'I stand corrected, I just realized we can't change the name because of blah blah . She said in a smug tone 'I know'. All I could think is 'Why didn't you say so'
So I want to be professional with her. I don't want to be intimidated, threatened or the opposite angry and snobby with her.