I have a nephew whose girlfriend is now pregnant. Both are in their twenties, but mentally have the capacity of 12 year olds. Both have diagnosis of this from doctors and exams done on them by psychologist. My nephew doesn’t have his high school diploma yet due to so many learning disabilities. Now he has his girlfriend, who has learning disabilities and just living life disabilities, don’t know how to explain it. She is like a child. She still believes in Santa Claus and uses children’s cups to drink from. Her mannerism is also of a child. My nephew is not that bad, except daily normal things like making an appointment and understanding what is said between him and the other person is very difficult for him. His girlfriend has wanted to become a Catholic for some time now. I had to help them both fill out the form to do that. They need to make an appointment and has not done so because they are waiting for another adult to help them. Now you get a picture of them. Okay, on Christmas Day they announced to the family she is pregnant. Both are very scared. My nephew doesn’t want the baby and says he is not ready financially and he wants to do other things in life before having kids. I told him that is why one is suppose to wait to have sex until marriage. He is very scared and still wants his girlfriend to put the baby up for adoption. She does not want to do this. I talked with my nephew who lives with his mother and sister, also an adult, and they took in his girlfriend but she has her own room. They promised not to have sex until marriage, but they did and now everyone knows. When I talk to my nephew, he honestly did not understand the whole way you can get pregnant. He was innocent, very innocent until he met this girl who had more experience. Anyway, now they want to get married. They wanted to also before the pregnancy.
My question is can they can married in the Catholic Church while pregnant. My nephew wants his baby to be born with two married parents. Mind you they are not ready for parenthood, but what is done is done. My sister, his mother, also has her own mental health problems and that household is not well. She keeps telling her son that he ruined her life by having sex outside of marriage and mentally she is having a difficult time with the pregnancy. The girlfriend has yet to tell her mother who is dying. She has lung cancer.
Anyway, can they get married in the Church while she is pregnant? She plans to join the Church later.