My family witnessed my sister’s daughter-in-law being abusive. We were at family gathering and she smacked her three year old in the face twice and put him in the corner. And, she yelled to him, that she was going to kill him, and then kill his sister.(a year old baby)
My sister asked her daughter-in-law to choose her words more carefully. DIL told her they were her kids and she would discipline how she wanted. My sister agree they are her kids, but she is concerned about their well being. At their age, words can really hurt. Her DIL grabbed her kids and sped off. the poor kids were in the car with their mom for a 90 minute drive.
I know that my sister should not have mentioned anything while she was in her rage. I am sure that she took great offense to it. It is such a sad situation. My sister is the calmest, laid back person I know. In fact, we would joke that there must be valium in her water., as it took a lot to rattle her.
Her DIL was brought up in a dysfunctional home. In fact she is estranged from her brother and father. They have not spoken for years, and she has limited contact with her mother. I can look at her family background and cut her some slack, for that is how she was raised. With that being said, she married into a loving family. Change can begin with her, as she learns there is another way. It is not belittling your children and being a bully.
My nephew’s wife is punishing my sister by not allowing my nephew to bring children to visit. My nephew is defending his wife, saying that she is all stressed from watching the kids all day. My sister mentioned that she go back to work full time, and put kids in daycare, if she can not handle the stress.
I believe that my niece has Borderline Personality Disorder. She certainly fits much of the criteria.
My sister is calling an attorney, today. I believe that will not help. She is just a grandmother, and she can not prove anything. My nephew is defending his wife. He has fallen under her spell. He was not brought up in that manner at all. His discipline was to have things taken away, and he was never verbally abused like his wife does to the children. My heart breaks for my sister, her grandchildren, and my nephew.(I believe that he may feel stuck) Also, she wanted to call Children protective services. We told her that would not help. They give a call ahead of time, and mother is on her best behavior when they are around. Also, it would infuriate her, and she would take it out on children.
Asking for prayers that my nephew will advocate for his children. Ideally, his wife would get into therapy and on mood stabilizers. That may never happen. I pray for intervention of this matter.