I enjoyed reading her book, but can’t really watch the series. I tried watching the first episode but it was clear that the couple needs to have an earnest talk with each other about more than just tidying up.
Most people own comfortably too much, and then purchase bigger houses and storage units to accomodate things.
Something that really struck me was years ago I heard someone say “You can only drive one car at a time, wear one pair of shoes, and drink one bottle of wine”. You can’t drive two cars simultaneously, nor can you wear two pairs of shoes at the same time—you can drink two bottles of wine but may not feel the best afterwards.
We regularly purge and donate, and we try to keep our household to the minimum—defined by us that we can move AND unpack everything on the same day, and properly put it away. That system has worked many years for us.
Even children don’t need much, many children feel oversaturated and generally only play with 5-10 toys. It makes more sense joining a toy library and rotating toys regularly than investing in them and the space to house them.
Same goes for clothes. It’s literally emotional baggage if you can’t throw away a dress or suit that doesn’t fit you anymore, you’ve never worn or haven’t in 3 years, and maybe had one good memory in—outside of your wedding gear. But even then, when do you actually use your wedding dress? Did you make baptismal gowns out of it? Did you get married in your mother’s dress? No? Why do we hold on to it? I still have mine and it only cost $100.
It’s super bizarre. Things are there to be functional, used, and/or enjoyed. Hanging up artwork is great, storing 50 paintings that never see the walls of my house is just sad. Storing an old sofa is weird, unless you have a kid that is moving out soon and specifically asked for it.
We hang on to things even when they do not add value to our life, and even if they take away value from it and our relationships.