So, in a nutshell as a get deeper in spiritual growth, the less tolerance I have for vulgarity, etc. I’m keeping a cheery front and being as loving around others as possible (mainly my in-laws who moved here last year from out of state). My secular, lapsed Catholic hubby is following suit, being the first to gently remind his family of things like, “Hey, remember we don’t cuss around the kids. Watch the swearing,” or “Mom, let’s not talk about that [something sexual] in front of little ears.” (Hubby is fantastic! He has changed so much!)
Especially during the holiday season I got lots of comments like, “We liked you better when you were a Buddhist…” “You’re so repressed…” “You’re a 1950’s Puritan.” As a joke I got a skull air freshener from car and my parents-in-law thought it was funny because “You need to be less nice; you take the ‘Christian charity’ thing too far.” The other day one of my in-laws said about me, in front of me, “Pfft… she doesn’t even take a [poop] without asking the Pope.” They are all lapsed Catholics. My father-in-law and brother-in-law like to, out of the blue, start in grilling me and throwing out comments like, “I won’t go back to the Church until they release Mary Magdalene’s gospel” or “Priests don’t know the Bible.” My parents-in-law were angry when I asked them to turn off a pretty provocative movie (Nine) or change it because they were watched it with my teenagers (who were embarrassed and asked me if we could leave their house!).
Believe me, I’m not overt. I’m told I’m just “quieter” at their house now. I’m not “fun” anymore. Odd, because I’m much happier. I asked if I seem judgmental now and was told no.
Hubby, my kids, my friends, and my sister have commented they like the calmer, sweeter, more peaceful, higher energy, etc. me. I smile more and am more loving.
Anyone else have this issue? Thoughts? I think I just need some commiseration!