My sister is newly engaged. Both she and her fiance are Catholic. My sister has been attending one Catholic church for years and her fiance has started attending the same church ever since they started dating about 6 months ago.
So they’re planning on the place to have their wedding. The Catholic church that they both attend isn’t “pretty” enough, so they’re church shopping. They want to get married in a “pretty” church. They’ve already talked to a priest - the priest is the one who we all know andd have baptised several members of our family. So they want to be married by this priest, but not at his church but at another church.
Personally, I think they are putting too much emphasis on the place and not enough on the Sacrament of marriage. They want everything to be just perfect for the pictures. They’re even considering going to another city or even state to get married, just as long as they can find a pretty Catholic church. To me, it’s just like choosing a venue like where to get the flowers from, where to buy the dress, etc. Am I wrong for thinking that way?
Also another thing is that they haven’t gone through the premarital counseling yet. And they are both trying to “get away” with the least amount of time in premarital counseling. I think the average time is 6 months, but she talked with one priest about it and he said they could do a weekend retreat and then like 3 or 4 sessions.
I guess what bothers me is that my sister and her fiance are placing too much empahasis on the wrong thing. How should I approach her or should I just keep my mouth shut? Am I overreacting?
Thank you for any advice and God bless you!!