This is great, I love reading all these stories!!
We’re getting married in a little under six months. Wow!!
We met on an online journalling site in 2004 when I was a junior in college, and he was a senior. At the time we were living in our home states; Michigan (me) and Minnesota. I actually had a boyfriend at the time. He found my journal when he joined the site and was checking profiles and saw I was his age, Catholic and interested in the same books he was. So, we became journal friends, which is a really common thing - I certainly never would have thought we’d end up married!
We actually did meet in person once, while I was on a grad school interview in Minnesota. I was still with my bf so it was nothing more than a friendly visit.
Fast forward to 2005; I’d broken up with my boyfriend and was going to go to graduate school in Wisconsin. He had taken a year off after graduation (he had a hard time finding a job or getting into grad school) and had just got accepted into a special program in his field that would give him a year to gain more experience so he would have better chances at getting into grad school - at the same university I was going to!! So, we started hanging out when I moved there, going to Church together, and etc. We became really close friends, and everybody thought we were dating. I was actually really opposed to it, haha. That’s kind of a long story. He even told me he had feelings for him and I told him I didn’t reciprocate. We stayed good friends. Even though ‘on paper’ he was perfect for me, something just wasn’t right…so I didn’t try to force it.
But in fall of 2006 I woke up and realized I was totally in love with him. I’d had a lot of issues I needed to work through, and suddenly they all clicked into place and I was ready to be in a relationship, and it was him I wanted. We started dating in October, and by September 2007 we were officially engaged (he proposed on a camping/biking trip) - we knew from day 1 we were getting married
My favorite thing about him is that he treated me with so much love even when I was a less than pleasant person to be around, and not as accepting of his love and friendship as I should have been. I used to push him away quite frequently.
Wedding planning is going great: I love to plan and do things ahead of time, and our engagement is just over a year so we were able to take it slow. We’re getting married at the Alumni Chapel of my old university in Michigan and having the reception at the student union there. Our favorite priest in Wisconsin is flying in to do the wedding We’ve handled all the major things, done all our marriage prep and learned our NFP (I’m on my second full cycle of charting)…we haven’t finalized ceremony details (aside from music) but we have a meeting with our priest next week! I can’t wait - especially as how that is the most important part!
But yeah, there are so many details and little costs. Luckily both Mom and I like to find bargains and fiancee and I are are very simplistic so we don’t want a lot of fancy stuff/decorations. It’s still going to be a pretty hefty chunk of change though, since I have a pretty big family and paying for all their food is the main expense. But I can’t wait to have my family all together!
Here’s my ring. It’s just what I wanted - simple and elegant and practical. It’s a solitaire round 1/4 ct cubic zirconium on a gold band.