[quote="Jay82, post:1, topic:207188"]
This situation is a long way off for me, but I am interested to know how you all have handled this....
For a couple that doesn't live together prior to marriage (and do not live with their parents), once you did get married what did you do? Did one person move out of their residence and move in with the other? What happened with the other apartment/house? Rent/sell?
Did you buy a place together to move into upon getting married?
I suppose I am curious to know how newly weds have made the transition to living together. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Obviously, there is no one-size-fits-all answer to a question like this. There are a million little variables. My wife and I were both renting and had roommates, so we found an apartment a few weeks before the wedding. We cleaned and started moving stuff over, and then, two weeks before the wedding, we moved the majority of our stuff and I started living there. She just kept a few things at her old place (clothes and such) until the wedding. This was easy to do as the furniture in the rental place (bed, dressers, etc.) came with the rental and did not have to be moved.
IMO, it was nice to have a "new" place to start married life together. Having one simply move in with the other could create issues (but not necessarily, of course). The temptation would be there that this place is still "mine" and my new spouse is simply being grafted in. But then, if you really have open communication and a true understanding of the sacramentality of marriage, such feelings could be easily avoided.
Really, it's just one of the (many) things you will need to talk through together. ;)