I’m new here, and I wanted to throw out my story and see if anyone has any advice.
My husband I were married this summer (yay!) About 2 months later, I was diagnosed with a painful bladder condition. It’s embarrassing to talk about bladders; really it just makes my whole pelvic area hurt. A lot. Which makes activities like sex hurt.
I’m getting help, on pain medication, going to therapy, going to doctors and doctors and doctors.
My thing is: I’m having trouble with some Catholic teachings. I was on birth control for the “wrong reasons,” and I went off of it because it was giving me migraines. That’s when my pain went THROUGH. THE. ROOF. It has been all but completely debilitating. I even considered dropping out of grad school at one point.
The other piece is, my therapist is recommending non-goal oriented intimacy. (Not to be too graphic) but things like oral sex. I know it goes against Catholic teaching, but a lot of times its like, A) okay we can still be intimate and not have intercourse, or B) not have it all. So to me, if option B is just not to do it, I don’t see option A as “worse.”
I know its okay to use BC as medication, but I get tired of hearing people say “there are other options out there” or “doctors are lying about it, its really an abortificant.”
I also am having trouble with the therapist’s suggestions about having a sex life outside of intercourse. It’s not that I disagree with her, and I do think its a much healthier/safer option for us, but does that count as an “exception” like birth control for problems?