[quote="spunjalebi, post:18, topic:234399"]
Reading threads like this about how people are willing to go so far out of their way to avoid having a child makes me really, really, really sad.
It's one thing if you and your husband were experiencing huge financial troubles, job loss, health issues, that stuff where it would be a grave reason to delay having a child. But it just sounds like you are really avoiding it like the plague.
Wow, and you have some mystical insight into their reasons, and can rule all those things out? No? Then let's not presume to know what we do not know.
A child should be a blessing. Not some disease to be avoided.
Where did she say anything remotely like that?
Of course everyone should have children responsibly, and we as Catholics do not endorse the quiverfull movement. However- there are plenty of CAF woman who have had "honeymoon babies," and realize that God's timing is very messy to us, but perfect to Him.
And there are also plenty of solid CAF women who have serious, licit reasons to avoid conception, but perhaps don't wish to sling them all over the forums. Maybe they're afraid of getting slammed... like this?
I would also like to put it out there that sometimes threads like this make those of us who have fertility issues feel as if we are being smacked in the face. I wish I could get pregnant and have a child so easily and be more fertile than the spring fields but I am not, nor am I the only one. Please keep that in mind.
With all due respect and compassion for your situation, there are very real problems on the other side of fertility as well. To ignore those can be just as callous and hurtful. Here she comes looking for support while trying her best to do the right thing, and she gets the finger wagged at her for presumed bad motives and insensitivity to the infertile couples.
Huh? What? And Really? Wow. :eek:
To the OP,
CONGRATULATIONS! I was also one of the gals on Day 0, so I can only relate in the sense that we had good reason to do other things on our honeymoon. ;) The wonderful thing is that the romance of finally being husband and wife is so overwhelming that even a kiss is incredibly meaningful. Walking down the beach and holding hands, as in the old cliche, was enough to make us glow. It didn't matter that we weren't in the bedroom all the time. We loved every minute anyway.
Bravo to you and your fiance for educating yourselves in the faith and choosing the path of obedience and openness to life. It sounds like you've done more actual prayerful discernment in this area than most, and I bet your marriage is going to be rock solid. Wishing you all the best! :thumbsup: