I’m asking for prayers and for a community of sorts. My fiance and I will be getting married in late May and are very committed to using NFP. I’ve had a somewhat sort of irregular cycle most of my life. And only recently, through the use of vitamins and supplements has my cycle become pretty healthy (Praise God!).
But because of the craziness of wedding planning and just recently realizing key things about my cycle (through NFP books and such) there is an almost 100 percent chance I’ll be fertile on our wedding night and for the few days after. I’ve been praying for God’s grace about this situation for a long time, and am coming to the realization unless He does something miraculous inside my body we’ll be fertile for almost the first week of marriage. I think I always had in the back of my mind, that “He’d work it out.” And I’m coming to grips with this is His plan, and even though it’s not what either of us want, He knows what He’s doing.
We actually booked our honeymoon five days after our wedding, just in case. So, I’m asking for prayers. We’re the only couple we know that is actively using NFP (my fiance is protestant, but VERY onboard with NFP) and all our friends are contracepting, and I feel so alone in this. I mean first, we wait to have sex (which half of our friends think is crazy- the other half did too), then we’re going to wait to actually have sex as man and wife because we are avoiding preg for the first year or year and half (for prayerful reasons) and it just feels crazy. We both know its God’s commandment- and I fully believe in His law for marriage, but it doesn’t mean we’re not heartbroken over the fact we won’t be able to enjoy each other fully on our wedding night and the next few days.
I’ve been poking around and saw some other people who’ve had similar situations and I could really use some stories of encouragement. I would love to hear if you guys prayerfully waited. I know we’re not alone, but sometimes it feels like we are. (By the way, I’m the one who’s really struggling with the frustration over it- my fiance, is at peace about it) He’s incredible and I’m so blessed to be marrying someone who truly puts God first…
Thank you so much!
Please do not write on here if you do not agree with NFP, of course you’re entitled to your own opinions, but I’m not looking for a debate, but encouragement. Thank you so much. I’ll have the energy for a debate another day