[quote=RCCDefender]I’m having trouble with my cervical observations this month. we’ve only been doing NFP for three cycles now, and it seems like the other two were easier to determine. Poor DH, I’m starting to feel sorry for him because we are abstaining so long. First month it was 19 days, second month 16 days, and this month 18 days. My cycles are around 32-35 days. We have the most grave reasons to avoid pregnancy, but 3 weeks is a little much, and DH gets so moody. We can’t take classes because of his work schedule, so we’re (I’m) trying to do it on our own. He feels like everything was thrown at him and there’s nothing he can do. I guess he feels helpless.
My heart goes out to you RCCDefender. Just remind him, “This too shall pass.”
On the good note, I can offer some support and advice because I have some long, variable cycles. Since you are new to charting and have serious reasons for abstaining you are having to use very conservative rules. It will get so much easier the more charts you have under your belt. For example, you are probably having to use day 6 as your current end to phase 1? This is by clinical experience for average and short cycles. With more experience you will be able to extend this phase using dry days rule. My DH and I adhere carefully to phase 1 rules of “not in the morning, and not on consecutive days.” This makes using dry days rules easy. We are able to go to day 9 every month and sometimes day 10 before the end of phase 1.
We also have serious reason to abstain right now. (Sick baby and very high medical bills to pay off. Insurance pays 80%? Yeah, right. 80% of what THEY say its worth! Baby is getting better though, thank you Lord!) So we know the frustration for you. My husband remembers the 6 weeks of post-partum abstinence so 19 days is nothing to him anymore. We have had cycles recently that ended up with about 19 days of abstinence but they were because of illnesses for each of us. It is good to know we can abstain that long without getting nit-picky with each other. We never know what our future holds.
My prayers are with you and your husband during this learning period. NFP holds for you a great future in your marriage. Keep up the communication with each other and God, and all will be well!