I was wondering if there is anybody who has found NFP to be somewhat ineffective (Yellow fertile days a LOT,) and if so, how do you deal with it?
When my marriage was blessed by the church, we attempted NFP for almost six months (with a LOT of abstinance) and then had three pregnancies in rapid succession. The last pregnancy resulted in the loss of one twin, and the remaining twin has Cerebral Palsy. On top of that, since the delivery of the twins, my cervex bleeds everytime I’m intimate with my husband although doctors are not sure if that means I couldn’t carry a baby to term.
Needless to say, after all of this, I am in great fear of becoming pregnant again. I don’t think I could mentally survive another delivery that resulted in anything similar to what I’ve been through, and I can’t justify creating a child that I feel could die. (The guilt over the loss of my daughter is already bad enough.)
My solution up until now has been to use condoms, which of course means no absolution and not being one with the church. I don’t take this lightly and I have been eaten up by it. Some Priests understand and acknowledge my effort and grant absolution, but just recently I have been chastized, insulted and then unabsolved by a new Priest. I was told (rather flippantly) that should I continue to have babies that don’t survive, that would be my cross to bare. (I DO understand the lack of absolution, not necessarily the attitude, and the difference in Priest’s attitudes astounds me!)
One Priest asked me to take another look at NFP because there have been some adjustments that make it more thorough for crazy cycles. Nothing I’ve found substantiates this. Is there something new (since 2001) that I don’t know about?
Any insight as to any part of my situation would be welcome. Thank you.