I know that NFP is a topic beaten to death here, but I have a concern. I am getting married soon, and my fiance and I are both virgins. So far, we have a healthy level of intimacy, and have discussed NFP and other things. We both want children. However, we don't want more children than we can afford.
NFP may never be a concern, because we don't even know that God will bless us with children. We both think 3 would be a nice number. Therefore, we may use it to conceive, not prevent pregnancy.
Also, I understand my body very well. I know my cycles. I also know when I am feeling desirous of intimacy, and that would be when I am fertile.
So here's my concern: what if we have 3 children, close together, and we're emotionally and physically tapped out? If we use NFP to prevent more, I don't get to have sex when I most want it (an issue that doesn't affect men). That puts an emotional barrier in the way of our sex life. How is that any different from the use of a condom, which is a physical barrier?
Mostly, how respectful is it to women to use NFP, which denies a woman from having sex when she would most enjoy it, if she wishes to abstain for legitimate reasons?
I don't want to be attacked. I just want to know if there are any other women out there who are as frustrated and tired of feeling guilty as I am.