I am at the end of my rope.
DH is not Catholic. He’s really not receptive to hearing the “Why’s” on the Catholic ban on contraception. He tolerates NFP. Although he fully understands the risks involved with hormonal BC and he fully supports my refusal to use it, he doesn’t “get” why barrier methods are wrong. But he reluctantly cooperates.
What he does not accept is my refusal to use other means to “take care of him” when I’m ovulating. He thinks I just don’t care about his misery and his needs and I’m just being selfish. He doesn’t get that oral sex is just another form of contraception.
So, every time there is a long period of abstinence, I have to deal with guilt trips and anger from him. I have had it. I am just near tears right now. There is a serious communication problem here and I don’t know what to do about it. How do I make him understand Church teaching when he doesn’t want to hear it. He would rather believe that I’m just being selfish.
I don’t know how much more of this I can take. This has been going on for several years and I am beyond frustrated.