Thank you for your answers.
I know couples abstain for good reasons such medical reasons. Abstinence is one thing, NFP is another. When you have to abstain for medical reasons, you don’t need NFP, you simply abstain and then when the medical issues are gone - God willing - why would you need NFP?
About jumping off a cliff, I think the difference between that and procreating is that one act is intrinsically sinful while the other intrinsically loving. And more than that, if the first happens, God allows it, He does not directly will it. But with procreation, it’s not a matter of God allowing the will of humans (like in bridge jumping) but it’s actually a direct and real act of God’s Will since we can have as much sex as we want and we would never be able to create a new life unless God - not allows it - but wills it. That means that if God wills for a couple to have a child even if they just had a baby 6 weeks ago, then it is His Divine Will who wills that act. And when does God ever will anything harmful?
I think the difference here is that in other areas of our life God is actually giving us complete and total freedom. If we want to eat as much as we want and get fat, hey it’s our will and He allows it. Etc. But when it comes to creating a new life, it isn’t our will that creates that life. It’s His Will. That’s where the difference comes in. The cooperation is not as in other areas of our life where we invite God in our life to partake of our activities such as when we pray before a meal. Here, God invites us to become co-creators of a new life. The invitation is from Him to us to be life-bearers and life-givers. He is inviting us to partake of the mystery of creating. What a mystery! So in this case, we’re looking at a very particular and special case where it’s really God leading and us following and no matter what we chose here, is overridden by God’s Will, whereas in other areas of life, He actually lets us have our way even if to our detriment. In this case though, if He is the one willing the act (a new baby being conceived) then how can that ever be to our detriment?
We practice Billings and we’re trying an new system now. We have 3 kids. I know what you’re describing there btw, totally get it. The thing is that I still am trying to wrap my head around the whole NFP thing. I think I stated my case pretty clearly so far. Still waiting for some concrete answers though…
God bless you all and may God bless our marriages continuously especially in this blessed year of the family.
Saint Joseph please pray for us.