[quote=Online Knight] Help… this has been tearing me up.
My wife and I have been married for 2 1/2 years now. We were both raised Catholic and have been very loyal to the Church… at least I thought.
We have been using the bcp for our entire marriage with the understanding that we are preventing pregnancy in a way that is not abortificial.
The Church teaches all contraception is a grave sin, not just abortifacient methods. It seems you were under the impression that contraception is allowed since your wife was using BCP.
[quote=Online Knight] I have done a ton of reading lately (so we don’t have to get into the argument of whether it is or isn’t) and I am worried about using the pill.
Whether it is or isn’t is not relevant-- it’s a contraceptive and all contraceptives are immoral.
[quote=Online Knight] I want to serve God in all aspects of my life and always do what is right as best I can.
This is very commendable.
[quote=Online Knight] Can anyone tell me how well nfp works… from experience.
I use the Creighton Model of NFP. We are currently avoiding, no problems.
[quote=Online Knight] I love my wife and we both can’t wait to begin our family (and we are fiercely pro-life) but we just don’t think we could do it financially now. Looking back, if we weren’t financially prepared, we shouldn’t have gotten married but it is too late for that now.
Then, to answer your question in the title of your thread-- Yes, NFP is for you since it is the only moral way to postpone pregnancy other than complete abstinence.
[quote=Online Knight] I trust in God to use me as his instrument and let his will be done in my life but I am terrified at the thought of having 12 children like my grandparents did. It is simply not possible at this day in age.
I disagree that it is “simply not possible” in this day and age. I would also suggest you and your wife seriously examine your attachment to material goods – it often seems to be at the root of this mentality… but that is a personal thing and I’m not judging just suggesting. No matter, NFP does not equate to any specific number of children.
[quote=Online Knight] Also, I don’t want to offend anyone by getting too graphic, but could someone with experience please thoroughly explain the processes / methods for me? I know that there are classes and books, but I want to give my wife a heads up before she will commit to a class.
Some others have posted websites for you to check out. I agree with these suggestions. You will find much info on NFP at each site. Each method of NFP is slightly different, but all use observation of one or more of the female’s signs of fertility-- basal body temp, cervical position, and cervical mucus. These signs are charted, and you know when you are fertile and when you are not. Therefore, you know when you can have sex and when to abstain.
As far as committing to a class-- you really need to do so and discontinue the use of contraceptives. Read your catechism, the entire section on the Sixth Commandment, and also read Humanae Vitae-- the encyclical on this subject.