[quote="KostyaJMJ, post:8, topic:204916"]
So stop using it.
Having to use NFP is a very negative thing and a very negative influence on your marriage. A couple should consider themselves blessed if they never have to use NFP. You are supposed to use NFP when there is no other choice but complete abstinence. If you're newlyweds then there probably no good reason to use anything at all, unless you're a masochist that is. :)
:thumbsup: The point that seems to always get lost in the NFP discussions is that NFP is not an alternative to contraception; it's an alternative to abstinance.
[quote="sadie2723, post:1, topic:204916"]
It has been a while since I posted here, but I am back and in need of some help. My wife and I were celibate prior to marriage...for five years. During that time, we began the study of Theology of the Body and quickly determined that a life without birth control was the life we wanted. We then looked for information about NFP, and settled on the Creighton Model.
NFP* is *birth control. If you are using any form of spacing or delaying pregnancy; it's birth control. NFP is not contraception.
After getting married in February, we stared practicing NFP and I have to say that I love the way that it works. If you follow the teaching, you avoid pregnancy...simple as that. So, I no problem with the function.
My question surrounds my wife's cycle. Due to some condition that we have not yet nailed down, she has a VERY limited amount of time in which we can have sex and not get pregnant. This is limiting our sexual activity to about twice a month.
Something is wrong here. We have posters here with VERY serious reasons to use NFP to avoid another pregnancy - life threatening reasons - and 2 days a month is extreme. Either: A) there is something about your wife's cycle that needs to be evaluated medically or B) the method you have chosen isn't the best one for you.
I am not selfish about this, and have accepted it. However, it is starting to cause some issues between us. My wife is very frustrated with it, and I am getting there as well. What I am asking for here is some kind of hope that things get better. We have both been praying and attending mass regularly, and we have been trying other ways of being affectionate. However, our lack of a sex life is really killing our marriage and we are starting to fight a lot.
Is there something we can do and still be within church teaching?
You don't need to answer in the forum but is the serious reason you are avoiding a pregnancy still as serious as it was when you started NFP? Sometimes (not always) frustration with periodic abstinence is a sign that abstinance is no longer the best choice and it's time to stop avoiding a pregnancy.
With that in mind, and without going into medical advice, cycles change after a woman has been through a pregnancy. NFP, if you need it again, might work better after a child or two.