I’ve been there and done it. I’ve been practicing NFP for almost 13 years straight. I have four children, the first three were all c-sections and the last one we adopted last year. All are 7 and under. I home school the children (pre-k, 1st, and 3rd grade.) , and we run our own family business. Private insurance is not only astronomically expensive but a HUGE issue for us since our second child was born with a heart defect and had open heart surgery at the age of five months. My life if full, to say the least.
While waiting for the return of each menstrual cycle after each delivery, life was SCARY!!! I can totally understand. We would abstain if there was ever a doubt. My husband has decided to sleep on the couch many a nights. As a matter of fact, he did last night and will tonight and the next until I pass that “fertile” stage.
I apologize to readers in advance for the blunt talk here, but it is what it is. It takes a lot of will power and prayer for both of us. One thing we noticed with NFP, our sex life is awesome. When we are free to have sex we both enjoy it and appreciate the gift we are giving one another. Sex is never taken for granted in our bed. And, it can be very, very, very difficult for me to abstain as well as my dear hubby. Yes, woman do want it!!! grin (That usually comes after the baby is a bit older though.)
Hang in there. Take one day at a time. One mistake I made was to analyze my cycle to death. I almost became obsessive about it and that can turn off the intimacy as well.
Our marriage has evolved and matured over the years. Now, when one of us is really, really wanting it, and/or needing it and we happen to be in the fertile stage, we offer it up by doing something nice for the other without the physical contact. It is tough. Many a fertile moons I look at my husband and say, “NFP sucks.” But, in reality, I love it. It has been awesome for our marriage. Keep up the good work. I’m proud of you for trying in this post-delivery stage. Hang in there. Sending prayers your way!!!