[quote="verawang, post:2, topic:223158"]
I just re-read this and it's confusing there at the end but I can't edit. So in short the pros and cons of using condoms (until my cycle is regular enough to tell if I'm ovulating and when I ovulate) are
Pros of condom use:
My husband and I don't lose another child
We don't have to sit by waiting to miscarry hoping that it won't happen this time
Pros of not using a condom:
It's morally the right thing to do even if I'm scared to death of the consequences.
I could get pregnant and if I do then it's part of God's plan for me
Cons of condom use:
I feel we are being selfish becuase if we are supposed to get pregnant than who am I to actively try and change God's plan?
It's a grave sin and I should feel like I'm sinning so morally I worry about that but rationally I know the situation I'm in is one only a few people are in (more than I ever realized before but still not that many).
Cons of not using a condom:
I could get pregnant until I understand my screwy irregular cycle (the cycle that never has any infertile days).
And, yes, I also know it's a grave sin to get my tubes tied which is another reason I haven't done it yet. Sometimes I think I'll just do it anyway because that is the only way I'll know for sure and then other times I remember someone saying that is like giving up on faith in God completely and then I can't do it. That would be the easy way out.
I've been reading some other posts on NFP and I'm now completely lost. I don't have to take my temp. every day and there were terms I've never heard before. I use the Creighton Model and am still pretty confused using it mostly because I've never had a normal cycle to really feel confident that I have the charting down (even with yellow stickers). I'm looking for people who have been in similar situations to know not just what they did but if they beleive God would still look at Condom use as a grave sin in this situation. Is that also giving up all faith in Him?
I did not read all you wrote above....but as to condoms...deciding to do such would be mortal sin. So that is the very big con!
Compendium of the Catechism issued by Pope Benedict XVI
- When is it moral to regulate births?
The regulation of births, which is an aspect of responsible fatherhood and motherhood, is objectively morally acceptable when it is pursued by the spouses without external pressure; when it is practiced not out of selfishness but for serious reasons; and with methods that conform to the objective criteria of morality, that is, periodic continence and use of the infertile periods.
- What are immoral means of birth control?
Every action - for example, direct sterilization or contraception - is intrinsically immoral which (either in anticipation of the conjugal act, in its accomplishment or in the development of its natural consequences) proposes, as an end or as a means, to hinder procreation.