My husband and I have recently welcomed our 3rd child into the world and are facing some dilemmas.
We have read much on TOB so we are familiar with church teaching on sexuality and family planning but there are a couple of tricky points on which we would really appreciate some clarification.
1 the sexual act must ALWAYS be open to life, you can not divorce the sexual act from it's procreative nature. Now, being in my 20s I know and welcome more life however, at this point both DH and I know that we cannot physically and emotionally take on another child. We would honestly be lying if we said that if God gave us a child right now we would welcome him/ her. Does that mean we should be abstaining until we truly are open to the possibility of another child ( I'm thinking 2 years) ??? I understand that we can avoid the fertile periods while using NFP but morally, if we are not open to life, isn't it wrong to engage in the sexual act?
( The mechanics) man should never ejaculate outside the woman's vagina as this would be divorcing the act from its procreative nature. What if the woman is pregnant so there is no possibility of procreation or what about the first few weeks after birth when the woman cannot have intercourse but neither can she get pregnant?
How many of you were able to successfully track the fertility cycle while breastfeeding and what method did you use? I find that this period is really volatile in terms of secretions and what not and temping doesn't really work since breastfeeding has you up at all kinds of random hours of the day and night.