My wife and I are around 33yrs old and have 5 kids. We got married around 25 yrs old. She is a stay at home wife and home schools our kids. (her choice, not mine) Now, we are done with kids and our marriage has been a bit shaky.
She says she wants to me with me, but NFP is the only way. Everytime we have tried NFP she never does the temp or mucous checking or really has kept up with it in the last 6 years. I say her because I travel 4-5 days with work, and get up much much earlier than her.
So, I went and bought a fertility monitor so we can better understand her cycle and now she is making more excuses, "it will take 2 months of monitoring, etc, after that we may not know"... It seems every solution for us seems to be problematic, and now I have the feeling she is not very sexual now that she has all the kids she wants, and no longer has to be with me. She was very sexual during our pre-marital relations, but I have the feeling she did it to get a husband.
So, now we have been together 1X in the last 6 months. Im at the point now where I am starting to hate her.. Bad! Everything now that comes out of her mouth now seems like a like and I want to ask about **annulment **options. She will spend hours on the computer doing research for her "Non-profit" but will neglect our needs and not look up anything on NFP. It is my job she says and I can pitch in.. But then again, she never does anything with the info.
Really, Im soooo mad at her. She is so holy roller in church but the does this stuff...
So, I want my marriage to work, but I dont want to be viewed as a chore, nor do I want to be a 33 year old begging my wife to be with me.. I feel soo weak inside... Any suggestions??