I have recently became engaged and we are commited to using NFP.
When should we start seriously learning NFP ?
Finding a Class and/or Books & Counselers ?
When should She begin the charting her Times & Symptoms ?
3 months / 6 months ?
How much should I (the Man) be involved in this before we marry ?
Obviously, I can’t be with her to help until then
What should we do on our Wedding Night if she is in a Fertile Period ?
Thanks for the advice
Website Suggestions . . .?
I would second (or third) the recommendation that you 1)sign up for classes & 2) check out websites right away (entering “NFP” or “Natural Family Planning” and “Catholic” into a search engine will keep you busy for days!).
The Couple to Couple League has a good website: www.ccli.org.
Charting temperatures and *signs *(not “symptoms”) of fertility is not something that we women just automatically “know” how to do, and fall into the routine instantly. It takes practice. And, the more of a baseline you have (i.e., the more pages of charts you have) the better to see the amazing monthly (and even yearly) patterns that God has created in each female body.
You asked what you should do on your wedding night if your wife is in a fertile period. That is for you and your (then) wife to decide together. Here is the conclusion my (now) husband and I reached when we realized we would be in that scenario on our wedding night: Since there is no “second take” on a wedding night, we opted to surrender to God’s will and God’s plans for our family, recognizing that in His infinite wisdom, there would surely be a special grace given to a couple & child conceived on such a joyous occasion, on the same day that we conferred a Holy Sacrament upon each other! (Thank you, God for sending me such a wise man!)
Reading or listening to Christopher West’s “Naked Without Shame” series based on JPII’s “Theology of the Body” might give you more food for thought on that…
Ask your fiance how she would like you to be involved before the wedding and after! She can tell you best what she’d appreciate & you can decide what you are comfortable with.
Blessings to you during this joyful enagement time!