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Well, 3 and 4 hit it on the head. Divine Physics - never heard that one before. Oddly, I've felt I've put myself last for a long time, giving up the career I wanted to keep the family in one place, taking whatever job I needed to make a paycheck. And yet, I feel guilty even thinking that way - a father/husband is supposed to give things up for the family. So why am I so empty? Am I not supposed to push myself to exceed and be better? My job defined who I was and what I believe, and I felt like I had to give that up and I've just settled for whatever happens. Yes, it is better for the family, but if this is what God wants, I don't get it.
Oh, I know what you're saying, but keep this in mind... God never called us to be "successful" in this life. He called us to be faithful. Your family needs YOU much more than they need the nicer things that a better job can provide you. If I ever see a hearse pulling a U-Haul, then I'll start worrying about how much "stuff" I or my family has. LOL Until then, my family is more important. The time I spend with them, the love I give to them from myself.
When we say put them first, I mean more on a personal level. Wife's tired? Clean the house and cook for her. Let her take a load off her feet. Even if you've put in a full day. That sorta thing. And try to do it without griping, okay? LOL
The other thing is not to define yourself by your job. As guys, we find that easier to say than do in our society. I guarantee you. But it's really just ego, we just don't like to say it that way. :) We should, however, define ourselves by our relation with Christ and our family. That's going to last a lot longer than a job or career. It took me a while to realize that. I used to be a supervisor/director all the time when I was a young man. Then, I lost a job as one and got to thinking. For about 80% of the same salary, I could have a LOT more time to spend with my family, and a lot less headaches! Add to that the graduation of my oldest daughter and it was like, "WAIT! I'm not ready for you to leave yet! How'd you get so big so fast!" I had missed many of her formative years so I could "do a good job and promote my career." That was a mistake. If I had it to do over again, I would spend a lot more time with my family. I've never seen anyone in a nursing home, sitting there rocking, going over past paycheck stubs. "Boy, this was a good one! Had overtime!" LOL I have seen people, though, going through family pictures and reminiscing. And those folks who spent a lot of time with their families had more visitors more often. I'm just sayin'... :)
Part of the emptiness you are feeling, is, I suspect, an emptiness of soul. Mother Theresa of Calcutta talked to a bunch of priests from the U.S. one time, who had an interest in going to India to "help out," because people were starving on the streets. People would pick up dog manure and eat it just to get something in their stomachs. Mother Theresa told them, though, "The greatest starvation is not in India. Don't come to India. The greatest starvation is in the United States! People are starving spiritually! They kill the unborn in order to have a bigger house, a second car, another TV, some material advantage!" She's right. We are starving spiritually here in this country, and the country is going down. As Fr. Corapi says, "The moral demise of a nation always precedes its ultimate demise."
Is there a parish relatively close by where you and the family can make a holy hour before the Blessed Sacrament? You might look into that. Friday nights or Saturday mornings are good times. But the "when" is up to you. You might ask 'em if they'd be interested in doing that. (And watch the expressions on their face. LOL)