Help me understand this because I’m having a really hard time with it.
I left the Catholic Church in 2012. I was married in 2014, my husband converted from Protestantism to Catholicism in 2017, and I returned to the Church in August of this year.
Our priest had mentioned that we needed to get our marriage convalidated, but never made it seem like a time sensitive thing. The other day, on another thread on this forum, I learned that for every day my marriage wasn’t convalidated, I was living in sin because I was living with my husband and being intimate with him while not officially married in the eyes of the Church.
I asked my priest in an email and today my husband had a visit with him. During the visit, the priest said that in our particular situation and given our specific circumstances, we didn’t really have much culpability about it, but now that it’s been drawn to our attention, and going forward, that is the case.
He said my husband and I should continue to live in the same house and not separate, but abstain from sex, and even if we do abstain from sex, we can’t partake of Eucharist until our marriage is convalidated, which could be about two weeks.
I’m completely devastated. I don’t know what to do. We have three pre-marital counseling sessions to do, a focus test to take, and then we can have the convalidation. TWO WEEKS. The Eucharist is my life. I don’t understand how I can be barred from taking it over something that two days before we had little culpability over and that clearly wasn’t a big deal considering our priest knew our situation, gave us Eucharist, and never mentioned it.