[quote="St_Francis, post:44, topic:211145"]
You know, it is always GOOD to REFLECT on what people are SAYING before you jump in and start YELLING at them and INSULTING them...
We are not discussing cases in which a spouse is so destructive to the family that the separation is necessary. We are not talking about cases where the spouse is taking drugs or abusing alcohol or beating other members of the family or taking all the money. We are talking about cases where one spouse thinks he or she can just destroy an other-intact family because he or she feels like it. Because he or she looks over the fence and thinks the grass is greener over there.
I see that you do not list yourself as a Catholic, so I will assume that you do not understand the Catholic point of view here, which is that a sacramental marriage cannot be undone: What God has put together, let no man put asunder. The Church does however acknowledge that there are times when physical separation is necessary for the safety of the family members, that one spouse has so failed in his or her position in the family--at times due to illness or physical injury-- that this separation must occur, and that a civil divorce might be necessary in order to protect the other members of the family.
We are not in any way denying the occasional necessity of divorce under certain circumstances. In these cases, however, the spouse who has been ill-treated can divorce for cause. There is absolutely no necessity for non-fault divorce, which is a license to break up families on any whim of one of the spouses, with no fault on the part of the other.
The family is the central unit of society. Without healthy families, we will not have a healthy society. And indeed we see this in the studies which come out showing that children from broken homes overall fare worse than children from intact families. IIn fact, children affected by the breaking of their family known as divorce suffer more ill effects than children whose parent has died, so it is not the mere absence of the parent which causes the problem.
And this trend in the US to allow the more important "contract" of all to be broken with no consequences, no responsibility, has very much weakened our society and more importantly, deeply harmed our children. Even children of intact homes know about divorce and fear the potentiality.
And the fact that our society does not protect the more basic and most vulnerable part of itself is just sickening. Any woman and child can be "discarded" at the whim of any spouse, without having done anything wrong.
Any person who wants to have a relationship with someone else, or their "freedom" to have sex with whomever, can just dump all their vows and obligations, leaving those who are left to pick up the pieces.
Yes, I admire this woman for trying to get the government to do one of its jobs, which is to protect the citizens against selfish people who unfortunately can just go off and abandon their families. The reaction to this should not have been to pass a no-fault divorce law in that state, but to institute stronger divorce laws which would protect the innocent people in the family.
The state should ensure that marriage is indeed through better and worse, through sickness and health, til death do them part, because this is one of the most important things it can do. We pass health care, and think that we are doing a wonderful thing, we have welfare, and think we are doing a wonderful thing, but we allow familes to be ripped apart by caprice, and that is what we should be fixing *first. *
You're wrong on so many things, First off, i do UNDERSTAND the catholic view on marriage. I also stated IN ADDITION to the situation here, that there are times when divorce is necessary. The man did have a right to get a divorce. He didn't love his wife anymore, he started a new life, he wanted away from her. Yes, its terrible that the woman had to be 'punished' this way. She loved him, she wanted to be with him, she knew they said vows, but this man has free will. She cannot control him. He did not want her, and due to that, he had the right to get away from her. Its called 'free-will'. Also if this man did not want his wife and started a new life without her, i dont understand why this wife didn't just get it through her thick head and let him be. I understand she loved him, she thinks marriage i saccred, but he did NOT want her. She tried to control him to stay against his happiness. She should have just accepted it and found another love. She shouldn't stay with somebody who doesn't love or respect her anyways.