Just asking as I’m feeling very down at the moment and need some affirmation that I’m not just an out of touch person on this issue.
I’m the only person I know barring a few people who abstain for purely cultural reasons, that holds true to the idea of abstainence. This is true even in the church I go to.
I’m 22, so not a spring chicken by any stretch of the imagination and though it makes me look weak, I must confess that my faith is being tested.
I was bought up by Catholic parents. They were easy going, allowed me to make my own decisions etc, so the decision to actually abstain from sex has been a cross I’ve made for my own back.
I believe wholeheartedly in the idea of love, with which comes of holding yourself for that one special person. I still do, and even though I am in a very promiscuous setting (university) and though temptation has very nearly gotten hold of me manys a time, I’ve been able to keep to it.
However as mentioned before, I haven’t met ANYONE who holds the same values as me. Everyone I know indulges in it, Catholic or not.
Does anyone of my generation still believe in the idea of no sex before marriage, or am I a relic with antiquated views?
I know it sounds very petty and selfish to be thinking about myself in such a way, but it’s gnawing away at me insidiously. Making me doubt myself. The odd reactions and jokes I get from people I can take, but I want to know that I’m doing the right thing, not just some childlike notion of love.