(FYI - I have a similar question waiting in "Ask an Apologist", but thought I'd appeal to the forums for practical, every-day advice in dealing with people)
Late Sunday night, I was asked by my protestant brother-in-law ("B.i.L." for short) to be the godfather of his youngest daughter. Feeling extremely honored (and a bit "on the spot"), I agreed. The next day I questioned if I COULD do this. After consulting the internet and a trusted local priest, my concerns were confirmed. I can't serve as "Sponsor" in a non-Catholic baptism.
I discussed with the priest and my B.i.L., and came up with what I thought was a nice solution. I'd participate as a "Christian Witness" at the baptism, and we'd make the arrangements for my wife and I to be legal guardians of the children in the event of something tragic happening to him and his wife. Seemed like the problem was solved.
Since last night, I've learned that my wife's family isn't quite as cool with this as I thought. They feel that by NOT accepting, I'm slighting their faith. My B.i.L. has even gone so far as to try to come up with ways to "circumvent" the problem. His first was "just do it and don't tell anyone"...which I pointed out was a bit of a jab at MY faith.
His second was that he'd "write a letter" expressing his consent for me to raise his daughter Catholic in the event that something happened to them. While this still doesn't alleviate the problem as far as I can see, it has proven difficult for me to discuss without my faith sounding exclusionary. Because of this, my wife is questioning if she wants to proceed with RCIA this fall.
Anyone else been in a similar situation???