[quote="Astria_Lexi, post:1, topic:333466"]
Hi, I just wanna get your thoughts and opinions about my problem here and I hope you would help me out.
I am a Catholic and I really have a deep personal relationship with God. I have a boyfriend who is a non-Catholic, he is a member of a G12 Church also a son of a Pastor in his church. I can totally say that his faith is ultimately solid with his church and I respect that as much he respects my belief in the Catholic church. I attend and participate mass every Sundays and I seldom go and visit in his church to watch him play the drums during their services. I even sing worship songs with them and sometimes listen to what their pastors say but never take their communion. But don't get me wrong, I have a strong Catholic faith and I have no intentions of converting whatsoever.
Recently, we've been discussing about marriage for quite a while now but we never really talk much with regards to the religion sector so did my research about this matter. I know that it is possible for a Catholic to marry a non-Catholic Christian in church provided that both must agree to raise the children Catholic. Knowing that my boyfriend's family is a highly respected leaders of their church, I have a feeling that they will not agree with this and they might insist to raise my future children a part of their church. Also, I heard in their church that they must ask permission from their Cell Leader if they want to get married and if the Cell Leader doesn't like it, there will be no marriage to take in place.
I know it will be very tricky to pull off to maintain a good family. And I know things will be easier if I convert and join his church, but I do not want that to happen. I heard that Catholics converting into protestants will surely be receiving bad luck, and there were many instances and real news that I heard that happened. I think it's crazy that even though we both believe in the same Christ, there is this thing that keeps us apart.
I really am thankful that God gave me a very good boyfriend and I am really, really, really praying that our relationship will work out. I don't want to surrender my faith either because of this differences. I'm confused. Please help me. :(
Can I just say that I'm worried about you? I looked it up, and I'm not sure this church even can allow you to be together without converting. The entire point of their faith is to convert as many people as possible. If he is the son of a pastor, I doubt he will be allowed to leave. And if they do allow you to marry, it will probably be because they expect you to convert.
Seriously, these people sound like a questionable Christian group at best, possibly a cult. I think the comparison to mormons is apt. Think about it- you said yourself that you are talking about a model that does not allow adult members of the faith to choose who they marry. It probably keeps adult members of the faith dependant in other ways, too. I'd be careful if I were you.
There is a lot if concern on the internet that these guys are a cult, and cults are not big on personal autonomy. They may not allow your boyfriend to make his own decisions, and this will then bleed over to you if you are married. Please think about whether you want leaders in his church possibly making arbitrary decisions about what you two can and can't do.
Personally? I would talk to him about all of this first and see what he thinks of your concerns. If he were otherwise the most amazing guy in the entire world, it would probably come down to how controlling the church group was. If they seem normal to you, maybe it will be OK (although deciding who people can and can't marry isn't very normal). In any case, I would definitely ask him about how much control the church leaders exercise in the lives of the followers. And be very careful, as you do not want to get sucked into a cult, or otherwise be forced away from your current faith.