[quote="4Squarebaby, post:4, topic:195838"]
I was in your shoes once but not seeking an outdoor wedding. As I understood it the church would send a Priest or deacon as an official witness should a dispensation be granted as other denomination clergy conducted the ceremony.
I see... thank you for the help. Is your spouse not catholic? Can you give advice as to how you both worked it out? Again we are far away from this point, but I am just preparing myself so I am knowledgeable when the time comes.
[quote="Incomplete, post:5, topic:195838"]
All couples must take pre-marriage courses, but there are other courses in addition for those to take who are marrying non-Catholics. In our diocese it amounts to six evenings. It's to help the non-Catholic better understand the faith of the spouse.
Out of curiosity, in your diocese can the marriage be outside if there is no Mass?
Regarding the OP and children, is this going to be an issue in the marriage? Does she want to raise them Catholic while you hope to raise them in another church?
I am not really involved in any church seriously at the moment, I am going back and reading scripture and reading what churchs believe, to find out where I stand with things. So yes, children being strictly raised catholic could cause problems, but at this point we are not really sure.
[quote="1ke, post:7, topic:195838"]
A Catholic cannot marry a non-Catholic without permission from the Bishop. This permission is predicated on the Catholic affirming their freedom to continue practicing the Catholic faith AND their promise to raise the children as Catholics.
So, there isn't an option for a Catholic to marry validly intending to raise their children as anything other than Catholics. It is not optional.
Only if the Bishop gives permission for Catholic weddings in his diocese to take place outside. There are only a few bishops that do so. You would have to ask the priest.
A Catholic marrying a non-Catholic can receive a dispensation from the Bishop to marry in the non-Catholic's place of worship. A priest could attend as a witness, but would not officiate (this isn't necessary for validity if the Catholic has been dispensed from Catholic form, but many couples do have a priest attend)
Perhaps going to RCIA with your girlfriend (not to convert, but to learn) would be a good idea, and also making an appointment to speak with a Catholic priest who can explain to you the very real obstacles mixed marriages may face and all of the Catholic Church requirements.
Yes I agree, I have been to a few of the RCIA classes before and plan to attend a few more with her. I also have never been to the catholic church during mass, and I plan to attend this following weekend for the first time to better understand it.
[quote="Joseph629, post:9, topic:195838"]
Can you see Scrip_reader how this could possibly create serious problems between the two of you, especially if she lives her Catholicism very faithfully, (and so she should), and the two of you could not share intimately that most important thing (Catholic Faith) in her life?
Yes, I can... that is exactly why I am here. I am trying to help her, find out what I can do to educate myself on what to expect, and the things required of myself and her for the future.