Here's a bit of a sticky situation, and only now as I prepare for my advent confession am I starting to feel scrupulous over this, so I'm asking for some incite into this issue.
Last January my Grandfather passed away and we had a funeral mass for him as is customary, and I was a pall bearer along with my uncles brother and father and we were directed to sit in the first and second rows. So we got to the point of coming up to receive communion, and one of my uncles went up, who to my knowledge is not Catholic and if he is he isn't practicing, he and my aunt got married outside the Catholic church because I think he was previously married. and within the time that the procession to receive communion was beginning and the time we actually got on line, I wondered if I should have stopped him. I didn't want to be pretentious or rude. I was 18 at the time and this uncle is in his late 50s early 60s I think, we only see him around major holidays and birthdays, and its a challenge to just carry on a casual conversation with him let alone try and tell him that maybe he shouldn't go up for communion.
What is my responsibility in this situation? Was it my place as his nephew to try and sequester him so to speak? I can't imagine a more awkward position for the both of us, my grandfathers casket is like a few feet in front of us, my grandma is crying like the whole time. at the moment, I wasn't sure if he was actually going to take communion, but maybe get out of the pew to let everyone else by, or just walk by in line without receiving, but as it is he did receive. And I thought to myself at the time, that it wasn't my place to try and admonish him, but the place of his wife my aunt who was raised Catholic by my grandparents to forewarn him if it wasnt proper for him to receive.
any advice appreciated on this situation but also in general. How do we deal with this type of situation with friends and family? I remember at another funeral i went to, the priest made an announcement before communion requesting that only practicing Catholics come up to receive, and I wish the priest at this funeral mass did the same >.<