non-Catholic Marriage


#1

I’m sure this has been covered before, but I could not find what I was looking for so I will just post and hopefully somebody can answer my question or point me in the right direction. I have a non-Catholic friend who asked me (a Catholic) to be in his wedding. He’s been my best friend since we were kids, I hate to not be part of his wedding (he asked me to be a groomsman), but I will not renounce the faith if the Church asks me to not participate. Is this what I must do, not participate, or am I permitted to accept his invitation to be a groomsman?


#2

If your friend and his intended are free to marry (as understood by the Catholic Church) then you are free to accept his invitation to be groomsman.


#3

Thanks for your response. I was wondering if you might be able to clarify this a little for me. I woudl think that he is free to marry, he has not had a previous wife, and she has not had a previous husband, but I am not sure if there are any other restrictions.


#4

Are either of them Catholic? Were either baptized Catholic and now “non-practicing”? If they are both non-Catholic from birth of have left the Catholic faith via a formal defection, if neither has had a legal divorce and the first spouse is still living, and if the marriage will be recognized by their faith - then you should be okay.

A good place to get solid answers - from your Priest. Another good internet resource, the AAA forum here, calling the Catholic Answers Apologists line and www.jimmyakin.org.


#5

Thanks for your response. Neither of the two have ever been Catholic. I have been meaning to go talk to a priest about this, but the most readily available priest in my area is unfortunately not a very Traditional priest. And quite frankly, he is not a priest whom I trust very much when it comes to relationship advice.


#6

The role of the groomsmen is purely ceremonial, not religious in any way. He’s not asking you to renounce Catholicism at all, or any part of its teachings – so go for it, and be happy your best friend is getting married! :slight_smile:


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