I once read about a guy who said he quit being Catholic because his mother couldn’t explain how communion was not the equiv. of canabolism. :eek:
All I could think of was wow… It’s a good thing she’s a genius regarding everything else??? Like the laws of physics, and how gravity works. Why his car starts in the morning… or he couldn’t believe in that… Oh, but he can see those… some of them.
I call this a lazy excuse to quit doing something that’s hard.
When you say it gets exhausting… I understand. However, I wonder why your son thinks you should be his ONLY teaching in this area. Granted you may be quite versed. But there is NO WAY really that your such the expert that you can meet his every question.
Honestly, the only person I can mentally excuse in their rational from turning away, is… the one that has studied and studied for years. With CATHOLIC theologians, and priests and such. Then, if they say, “yeah, there is no way…” At least they tried. But when, for example like the case I’m related to… His brother studied a handful of religions and “he’s really smart”, and he says they (all religions) are all wrong… and hey did you know they didn’t use the word “virgin” in the real writing." And so now he has his answers… And the LOOK on his face when I say, Yeah, you’re right. They didn’t use the word for Virgin. They used the word for “marriagable.” Which you know EVEN TODAY in the middle east means you’re a virgin, or your father has the right to kill you… If you’re marrriagabe you HAVE TO BE A VIRGIN… or that word is not correct!.. Ok, I digress! Lazy arguements… What are you gonna do?
For example. How is he learning about martial arts? Does he take a class from a Blackbelt, and read about it, watch chuck norris and Bruce Lee movies? Or does he learn from a tv show? Is he a master in his “own mind” so to speak? How is he learning about other anything else? And which form of martial arts is he taking. And UM… how pure is THAT art? For he’s taking it in the US, probably from a white guy? Has he returned to the mother land of said form. Why that form?
I suspect, right now, this Catholism) is just not holding his interest. And this is fairly normal. It’s restrictive, and sometimes boring.
My advise would be. Do not imply that he must choose between his hobbies and his religion/faith/God. Martial arts is NOT a religion. It’s an ART! He will learn much about his body and self control, disipline and aweness. Things in the end that will lend much to his faith should he gather it back! Eastern medicine has MUCH to offer. It’s no where near as toxic, and often addresses the cause of illness… not just the symptoms, as western medicine. Jesus fasted often too! So do many Catholics…
Talk with the experts on apologetics. Get advise on the best gifts for your son with regard to Medals, Books and such. There is NO REASON he can’t be a Catholic Tae Kwon Do Master. Get him a medal for THAT! St. Sebastion is the patron saint of Athletes and soilders. Says one google search!
I’m at a stage in my life that I would not consider myself a master on the Catholic faith. However, my favorite reads have to do with Padre Pio for those that are falling away. WHY? Because he’s current (1970’s). His story isn’t so old that it’s been told and retold to appease the mindful creations of others. His history is as real as JFK’s. There are online stories of WWII vets that saw him in the sky turning their bombing efforts away from a certain village. Padre Pio, Man of Hope is an excellent read. Fast too. And you know what. It will also address the HUMAN element that has and will continue to part of the “problem” with the church. If there is one. In that there were men, entrusted by the Pope to report on Padre Pio’s Stigmata. They returned to the Pope and LIED about it’s reality. They lied because they were jealous. The human element came into play. That’s a reality among us humans. Sometimes it really is hard to see the forest for the trees. But just because one tree is rotting… it does not mean the whole forest is not real or lost…
Hang in there. It’s so natural to fear that your child is lost. Physically, or Spiritually. But God knows what’s going on with him. He knows the path your son will choose ALREADY. Know that there is a plan. You can can continue your prayers. And you can continue to answer his questions. And always be honest… I don’t know that answer to that question. We will both have to do some research to figure that out…
Hugs and Prayers!