I was raised non-religious, although I was baptized Catholic when I was a baby. My family left the church shortly after I was born, and I have never attended church in conscious memory.
I am dating a Catholic man. We’ve known each other for six months, and have been dating for one month. He has asked me to start attending church every week.
I have no objections to Catholicism, but I don’t know much about it. I know that if I were going to join a church, the Catholic church would be my first choice, because I respect its traditions and I have not found Catholics to be rudely evangelical like other Christian denominations. However, I don’t particularly feel a calling to become Catholic. I don’t really know much about heaven, and I’m not certain I believe in it.
I love this man, and I know he is a good man. He has let me know that he expects to be the head of his household, and his children must be raised Catholic. I don’t object to raising any children Catholic, but I’m not sure I want to convert myself. I could attend church, but I’d want to convert in my own time, if at all. He can be a stubborn man, but I know that I couldn’t in good conscience convert to Catholicism unless I really believed. I refuse to live a lie.
I want to know if my attitude is going to be a problem in this relationship. I fear that if I continue dating him, even if I attend his church, we’ll end up locking horns and being unhappy.
He already has two children from a previous marriage that was annulled. His wife left him (she said she needed a vacation and never came back) and his mother is raising his two daughters, while he is working away from home to make money.
I want to know whether his family and friends, who are all Catholic, are going to have serious objections to us dating and perhaps even marrying. I also want any advice you can give us. Also, my doctor put me on oral contraceptives because I bleed heavily naturally, and I am hesitant to stop taking them due to the risk of anemia coming back. I know if I start going to church, I should stop taking contraceptives, right?