I’m having a little trouble with my wife, any ideals would be great.
My wife and I did not have sex on our wedding night, she was tired I can understand that. Then when we went on our honeymoon, she forgot a pill (she is taking them for medical reasons) on our travel day and wound up getting her period on the honeymoon, she did not want our first time to be during her period I can understand that. Then a month later, we started to fool around and after about 5min of foreplay, she gets up and says she forgot something for school (she is a grad. student). Well that was the last time we had any physical romance, note I said any. Yup you guessed it we are married and are both VIRGINS!! To make it worse we have been married for ~16mo! I am frustrated too. I ask about it atleast once a month, and she says, “I just don’t think about it” or “I’m just too busy with school” I feel like I got the short end of the stick. We had more of a sex life (even though we did not have sex) before we got married, than we do now. We would sit together, hold hands, french kiss, kuddle, ect. Now we hold hands once in a great while, and it is like pulling teeth to even get a peck out of her. I don’t know what to do. I love her and can’t use the “put out or get out” method. And I feel like if she where to “give in” and have sex after one of our talks it would just be to shut me up and I don’t know if it would be something I could do if I did not feel like it was something she wanted. I am frustrated. I’m thinking some form of counseling, but what kind? Marriage, sex, couples,ect? I also don’t know if there is something she may have been taught, she was raised catholic and I Baptist. Is there anything that you can think of that from a catholic point of view could be causing her to not want to consamate our marriage?