I have been trying to find something to do to be more active in my parish, so I asked about being part of the RCIA team. I went to the "team member" meeting last month in which they discussed ideas for the coming year as well as potential members of the parish who might be good confirmation sponsors for those who don't have someone already in mind. One name was mentioned and the DRE said something to the effect of, "She's no good. She has too many anxiety issues." The others laughed and joked about her.
This statement hurt me in two ways. First, these people don't really know me, so they don't know that I suffer from anxiety. I have a great medication that helps, as do certain changes to my diet, so most people would never guess that I have anxiety. I felt completely worthless and wondered how they would feel about me if they knew about my anxiety issues. Second, there is the fact that the person they mentioned is also a very good friend of mine. I know that she has anxiety issues, to the point that she cannot hold a full-time job and works a part-time job and is a freelance writer. However, she is probably one of the most faithful and devout Catholics I know and is a great example of how to live one's life trusting in God.
My question is, is this enough to keep her from being a confirmation sponsor? What if a candidate had asked her to be their sponsor on their own, would they refuse to let her? Should I mention this to our pastor?
I'm not sure that I even want to continue with the RCIA team because of how they treated my friend behind her back and because of my anxiety of how they will view me (and ridicule me) if they ever find out about my medical condition.