My brother has started dating one of my sister’s old high school pals. I didn’t like her then, don’t like her now. She wasn’t a very good friend to my sister and was a bad influence in general. We breathed a sigh of relief when her family moved away. She came to my sister’s wedding in May, and now that they were reacquainted, they’ve started dating long distance.
I come from a family of overachievers; she completed college and works a respectable job, but was a mediocre student and certainly isn’t a standout in terms of ambition. She’s a democrat; EVERYONE in my family is a hard core conservative. Honestly I don’t know where she stands on the issue of life- don’t even want to think about the prospect of my brother dating a woman who believes it is ok for women to kill their own babies in utero.:eek: She has inappropriate pictures on her facebook account of her sister in provacative poses in her underwear/bikini. Her attire and mannerisms are distasteful, too.
This is my brother’s first relationship after a really, really tough breakup with his high school sweetheart. They dated all through college, talked about marriage, but she decided it wasn’t going to work. We were really worried about him, as he went through some deep depression afterwards. He is very private, and doesn’t talk about his relationships.
Should I tell him my concerns about this girl? Keep my mouth shut? Try to give her a chance and be supportive? Only give my thoughts if asked?