Post by jcservant: I would take a different view on this than some of the posters. I have 2 friends who are in a 2nd marriage, one is a revert Catholic and the other wants to be Catholic but cannot because of their marriage. People see the Catholic take communion and probably think that they are committing adultery based on the existence of a teenager. However, this couple has chosen to continue their civil marriage and raise their child while living as brother and sister in order not to sin any further. The Catholic has been to confession, received absolution and taken steps not to sin further per her priest’s instructions. They publicly told their story as witnesses to RCIA also as a cautionary tale, but the whole parish did not receive a newsletter about it so someone may not know all of the facts.
I think that we should be careful about assuming what the priest does or does not know or care about in any situation that we do not have direct involvement in because we may be misinformed. I don’t think it is a good idea for the unmarried to live in the same house and give the appearance of scandal, but I would suggest leaving a note expressing concern about the communion issue for the priest (just in case he somehow is unaware) and then praying for them without furthering gossip about the situation./
I bolded what I thought was very wise advice, esp. the gossip part. I recall a Priest who visited our Parish and talked about Sin, Confession, and Forgiveness. Anyway, he said that he believed that one of the most serious and insidous sins in American life is gossip.
First of all, gossip is dishonest as we say things behind people’s back that we don’t say to their face. Gossip divides as it contains an air of superiority of ourselves and inferiority of the one we are talking about (we are all equally loved by God and that is the only measure that really matters).
Second, much gossip is based on perceptions, misperceptions, incomplete information about the facts, and most importantly doesn’t have any insight into the depth of the “gossippees” heart. Thus, since gossip is likely inaccurate because of the above things I mention, gossip is “bearing false witness” against another Christian. He then reminded us that this is in violation of the 10 Commandments and is grave matter and likely a mortal sin.