]I have six nieces ages 5 to 18. Three live with their divorced dad and their grandmother.Three live with their 2x divorced mother. Neither parent practices their faith, neither parent attends Mass with their children, yet all are being raised Catholic. How? by grandmother.
This all sounds is if the grandmother is making saintly sacrifices to ensure that the children have the advantage of knowing and participating in the Catholic faith in spite of their parents lack of participation.
Now the twist, in spite of grandmother adamant insistance in raising these children in the faith, certain moral efforts are lacking.
Examples are: Grandmother sends excuse notes to the teacher saying that children who have been out with friends all night instead of doing their homework’ had belly aches and were unable to finish homework.(this happens regularly) She sends nieces to sleepovers at cohabitating relatives houses to get them out of her hair for the weekend. They also miss Mass on these occasions.
The children tell me that she has cable channels that she gets without paying for,so they know she is stealing cable.I asked her it’s true! Maybe these examples seem small but it’s the frequency of the lies and the justifications that really bother me. The older ones now call her a hypocrite and I can see why the do this. I can’t defend her behavior if she keeps bending things to suit her purposes.
The fruits of all of this are, a confused niece who went up to receive Holy Communion after ditching mass and lying about it to grandmother without going to Confession first. Another who receives Communion though she is having relations with her boyfriend. The children now all lie, steal, cheat regularly. They also ditch mass regularly and lie about going to confession.
I am outraged that the same woman who sends them to Church also lies for them. I have tried many times to talk to her about these lies and other immoral acts and asked her to take these things to confession. She tells me the priest says what she is doing is all OK. She lies to me even!
I even pointed out the fruit of her deceptions, She just doesn’t care.
Any thoughts or ideas and prayers would be greatly appreciated.