Here it goes.
My Grandmother passed away this past August 4th.
She had a total of 12 children. One of the children, a boy we'll just refer to him as "Ted" really
gave her a run for her money.
Ted was a handful. In trouble a lot with the law. He was so much trouble that he had to be put in a foster home. He did time in jail as well when he got older(adult).
Ted did get married to a lady we'll refer to as "Maggie". Ted and Maggie had a son we'll refer to as "Josh". Ted and Maggie's marriage didn't last because of all the trouble with the law.
Maggie left Ted and took Josh with her.
Our family never really got to see Josh. In fact I think he was something like 17 the last time my grandmother saw him and that was the first time she saw him since he was like 4 I do believe.
Now about 2 years ago I get a friend request on facebook from a woman we"ll refer to as "Peggy". Turned out that Peggy was Josh's wife. I communicated with them a lot through facebook.
I was planning my wedding in July 2010 and they were supposed to come.
On February 14th 2010 I commented on Peggy's status on facebook "glad you had a great dinner, hope to see you this summer at the wedding".
Well. This got ugly. Josh's Mother Maggie flipped out and got in a big fight with Peggy over facebook. Unfortunately I didn't get to see any of the posts but Maggie felt that Peggy only had all of us on there(meaning everyone in my family) to deliberately hurt Josh's stepfather who we'll refer to as "Fred" and that she couldn't believe that they would consider visiting us and hurting him like that.
So basically I get a message from Peggy explaining this and that she had to delete all of us from facebook including my 1st cousin (josh's half brother) who we'll refer to as "John".
That she hoped I understood why. I replied explaining that we wouldn't want to interfere but that I didn't understand why Maggie would flip out like that because we realize that although Ted was Josh's biological Father that Fred was the one that brought him up and that we'd never ever discriminate.
I sent them a wedding invitation anyway. No response. I tried to send Josh an email but either I typed the wrong one or her ignored it. I sent an xmas card in dec 2010 no response.
Josh's wife does have facebook still. John I think gave up with his attempts a while ago.
My question is, should I bother contacting them to let them know that out Grandmother passed away?