Trying to help someone who seeming doesent want it…A good friend of mine has little faith in God, and even less in Jesus and the Church. Yet I met him in church and he was even semi-dressed up for it. That was two years ago. About a year ago he tells me he believes in 100% predestination and that we have no free will. I tell him there was a reason why Calvinists are almost non-existant…because they picked up a bible and saw that this contradicts it. His response was that the bible was written by people. I was shocked, argued with him and probably ended up turning him more away. I would talk to him then and asked him ‘don’t you want a better connection with god’ and he said ‘not really’ and was fine with how he is. Half a year goes by, and I am in pain and part of my ear has been almost permanently damaged. I ask him to pray for me, and he says ‘maybee’. All the same time he has gone to church with me every sunday. Hearing this, (and in shock), I was almost speachless and asked him if he was joking. He wasn’t. I had to give him examples of when people pray for others, like when someone is dying, or hurt. And I think I convinced him to pray for me, ( I think ). We live near one another this whole time and share rides to church being friends. This was untill he moves on the other side of town and it is inefficient to pick me up just recently. Then he tells me that he might not go because he didn’t get sleep the night before and is unpacking. I was in shock ( but i saw it coming a year ago) and told him that his new living situation should not be a excuse not to go to church and that I enjoy his company in church. He said to that “maybee”. I end up seeing him there, only to talk about the eucharist at the end of mass. And find out how he thinks it is unimportant and doesent believe what the priest says when blessing the bread and wine because he believes that Jesus said was a metaphor. As you can tell, hearing this from a close friend kills me. I pray for him so much, but want to help him without him being defensive and turning even further away. Any suggestions? Comments?
Please pray for him, -that he may see the light of God as I have been able to,
-I forgot to add that the few times we talk about religion, it ends up being like this, i find out that his faith has deminished even more. I tell him he needs a little more faith…he replies to me I need logic. Not very re-assuring.