I'm new here and have read through some of the threads related to my question, but haven't found anything that exactly fits my situation.
I will be married next April, and have yet to meet with the priest (will do so soon). My fiance was baptized but never received any of the other sacraments and was not raised in the faith. He does attend Mass with me occasionally now (we don't live near each other often enough to go together every weekend) and will continue to do so when we are married. I, on the other hand, have always been a practicing Catholic, along with my immediate family.
It is my feeling that, since my fiance has not received his first reconciliation or communion (and likely won't by the wedding, though he is considering RCIA), we should celebrate our wedding outside of a Mass. I want our wedding to be unitive, and if I receive communion but he does not...well, I just think it creates a sense of divide at the wedding that I'd prefer to avoid. In addition, at least half (probably more) of our guests are not practicing Catholics- both on his side and mine.
The problem is that my parents were horrified that I was considering not having a Mass. It was my understanding that in my circumstance, having a Mass would likely be discouraged, but since we are both baptized Catholics I suppose it's different than a Catholic and non-Catholic. I want to do whatever is most appropriate, but I don't know what that is. I plan on consulting with the priest, of course, and will trust his judgment, but I thought I would post here and see what all of you thought. Thanks in advance! :)