*Hi everyone. I am seeking some guidance and advice about how to obey my husband.
(Please keep in mind I am not starting this thread to debate whether I should or should not be obeying him. If you want to debate this please start a different thread or search the forums for other threads on this subject.)
I have been thinking about this a lot over the years of my marriage and have not really been able to resolve it on my own.
I want nothing more than to be obedient to my husband. I believe this is what God calls me to be. Yes, I was raised in a somewhat very sheltered life but since hearing from others about different perspectives it does not change this.
The way I understand it is that a wife should have blind obedience to the husband and that the husband should be the leader. Yes, it is scary, but I find such a subtle sweetness in this surrender and it does something to my very soul that I find hard to describe and I can not help but surrender to ....
But, I have learned that even though my husband is willing to be the leader he is also very sensitive to the fact that he does not want me to "feel" like I am being subjected to this. I do believe he went to great lengths to make sure I was choosing to live this way of my own free will. But sometimes I "think" his "sensitivity", while being very loving and appreciated, causes me some confusion.
The one area in our relationship I am having trouble sorting out and maybe some one here can help me understand better is this.
He does want me to use my own judgment and he tries really hard to not just tell me to do or not to do certain things but I find it hard to just go with my decision.
For some reason I know sometimes my choices or ways of doing things are not how he would have "preferred" I do them but he never explicitly says "don't do it that way" so I go with my decision even though my intuition told me he would have preferred I did not do it the way I chose.
This makes me "feel" am I somehow not showing him the obedience I should be. I had to ask him the other night that if he really did not want me to follow my decision and go with his would he point blankly tell me?
He did say he would.
But I wonder ....is he just saying this because he does not want me to "feel" like I am being "subjected" to his will?.......
So I wonder some more, should my decision be to following my intuition and just go with what I believe he would be wanting me to do or do I take him at his word and wait for him to point blankly tell me when he wants me to follow his lead...
I believe that what I am asking is should I trust my judgment and wait for him to point blankly tell me what he does and does not want me to do or should I trust and follow my intuition and do what I believe he wants me to do or not to do?
I so hope and pray this makes some sense. Any help in trying to sort this out would be greatly appreciated. If you need me to clarify anything please let me know.*