I would have to second the belief that a girlfriend who practices Wicca might be the problem. We should not be “unequally yoked” with unbelievers. I think that means that until she determines that she is willing to live by the rules of God and seek him for herself in her own way, then it is better to be friends, unless St. Rita is a possible model for your life that you suspect that Christ might be calling you to imitate. Otherwise, you might fall into the danger of idolizing her and letter her lead you little by little by little away from God instead of you leading her little by little by little into the arms of Christ through Mary.
Do not be yoked with those who are different, with unbelievers. FOr what partnership do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness? What accord has Christ with Beliar? Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said: “I will live with them and move among them, and I will be their God and they shall be my people. Therefore, come forth them and be separate,” says the Lord, “and touch nothing unclean; then I will receive you and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.” 2 Corinthians 6:14-18
One way to know if you are idolizing something: can you do what Abraham did and sacrifice Issac for Christ? or what Mary did and allow Joseph to refuse to marry her and let herself live under the threat of single motherhood and stoning? Is your love for her a disinterested love?
From St. Louis Grignon Marie de Montfort in True Devotion to Mary
110. Fifth, true devotion to Mary is disinterested.
It inspires us to seek God in his Blessed Mother and not ourselves. The true subject of Mary does not serve his illustrious Queen for selfish gain. He doe snot serve her for temporal or eternal well-being but simply and soley because she has the right to be served and God alone in her. He loves her not so much because she is good to him or because he expects something from her, but simply because she is lovable. THat is why he loves and serves her just as faithfully in weariness and dryness of soul as in sweet and sensible fervour. He loves her as much on Calvary as at Cana. How pleasing and precious in the sight of GOd and his holy Mother must these servants of Mary be, who serve her without any self-seeking. How rare they are nowadays! It is to increase their number that I have taken up my pen to write down what I have been teaching with success both publicly and in private in my missions for many years.
True Devotion to the Blessed Virgin fisheaters.com/totalconsecrationmontfort.html
Maybe helpful words and remember the promises of the bible. :o
Jesus said, “Amen, I say to you, there is no one who has given up house or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or lands for my sake and for the sake of the gospel who will not receive a hundred times more now in this present age: houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutions, and eternal life in the age to come. But many that are first will be last, and (the) last will be first.” Mark 10:29-31
St. Padre Pio, *“Who can assure us that we will be alive tomorrow? Let us listen to the voice of our conscience, to the voice of the royal prophet: “Today, if you hear God’s voice, harden not your heart.” Let us not put off from one moment to another (what we should do) because the (next moment) is not yet ours.”
“Oh, how precious time is! Blessed are those who know how to make good use of it. Oh, if only all could understand how precious time is, undoubtedly everyone would do his best to spend it in a praiseworthy manner!”
The more you are afflicted, the more you ought to rejoice, because in the fire of tribulation the soul will become pure gold, worthy to be placed and to shine in the heavenly place.
Jesus permits the spiritual combat as a purification, not as a punishment. The trial is not unto death but unto salvation.
Do you know what religion is? It is a school in which every soul must be trained, smoothed and polished by the Holy Spirit, who acts as a physician to our souls until, well smoothed and polished, they can be united and joined to the will of God… Religion is an infirmary for the spiritually sick, who wish to be cured and must therefore undergo the pains of surgery. *