ITT I would like to discuss why men in my age bracket (18-35) would ever want to get married. I would like to discuss this from a purely secular standpoint.
Some simple facts:
-50% of marriages end in divorce, of which the vast majority are initiated by women (either formally or, to extrapolate from common sense, informally through pressure)
-Of these marriages, which can be ended for not reason whatsoever, the “wife” will have an undeniable right to half of your stuff, the house, the car, and almost certainly the kids as well. You will also likely be liable for alimony payments.
-45-50% of women over the age of 40 will have had an extra-marital sexual affair
-70% of men are unaware of their wives’ extra-marital affairs
-10% of children’s putative fathers are not their actual biological fathers
Now for personal experience
-I grew up in a broken home. I know of the psychological damage this causes. It is, as Peter Kreeft has said, the worst kind of damage you can cause a child short of abuse.
-My grandparents had lovely marriages (of course that was before the second wave feminist/sexual revolution), my uncle was recently abandoned by his wife, who then took half of his wealth thanks to his (and our nation’s) laws permitting unilateral no fault divorce.
-My reading of Catholic Answers and visual survey of the pews every sunday lets me know that even in the western Catholic world, marriages don’t seem to be all too bright, lots of problems in them, hanging on by a thread even if they manage to avoid divorce.
Now to you, CA poster, why should a young man such as myself, with a decent career in the works, lots of free time to pursue activities that please him, and time to volunteer and do almsgiving, fasting, prayer and study of the church, put all this on the line for a marriage which would seem to be a rather unwise investment if it were about money and not people given the above stats. Also remember the possibility of subjecting a child to a broken home, not a delightful prospect from what I’ve heard and known.
Thanks in advance for your reasons,