Hello. Let me begin by saying I am a cradle Catholic who’s family is still practicing and my mom even works for the church. I would say that even though I’ve been a catholic my whole life, it was until a few years ago when I met my now husband that I even took it seriously.
That being said, I have a younger brother who is 15 and a sister who is 22 who were raised similarly in their faith. My sister and I have been very close since she was about 16, and was even the Maid of Honor in my wedding 11 months ago. While I love my sister dearly, I don’t see us in the same place in our faith journey.
We just had our first child 6 weeks ago; and had him Baptized in the Tridentine form (it was beautiful). When choosing Godparents, my husband and I had narrowed it down to three couples we are close friends with, who all share a similar thirst for their faith and wish to seek holiness for their families. We eventually decided on a couple whose husband was the Best Man in our wedding. They seemed like the obvious choice, and we know they will take this role seriously.
We announced this choice to my family not even two weeks ago, and just two days before the Baptism my mom pulls me aside to tell me my sister was really hurt. She went on to say that choosing people who aren’t family isnt always the best choice (unless there are no other options), because they might not be around when the kids are older. When I explained why we chose who we did, she said I shouldn’t be the judge of where my sister is spiritually. I should mention that my mom is very protective of my sister, and feels I have a ‘holier than thou’ attitude when it comes to the family (which I disagree with).
One last thing; the night before the Baptism my sister went to a bachelorette party, and actually ended up missing the Baptism (I believe because she slept in, I wouldn’t know because she never talked to me about it). I know she would never intend to miss it, but it kind of confirma our decision.
So my question is, how do I address this situation? Especially since she herself never told me she was hurt but I know she was because both my mom and brother mentioned it. Please help! I don’t want to ruin our relationship.