Eead a past thread in this category that was closed - would like to reopen and ask for answers about removing a godparent officially. Our child (we agree with her) wants this based on this person’s absence and poor role modeling.
Backstory is that our child was confirmed Catholic and baptized in a state away from our close friends and family, most of whom are not Catholic, anyway. So, our daughter chose from among my close friends here, a woman whom she thought would make a great godmother based on the way she “wears” her Catholic faith. However, although her GM is an EM, goes to mass regularly, volunteers at a Catholic teen camp, and happily agreed to serve in the “Godmother” role, she hasn’t contacted our daughter in years. This is despite daughter’s chronic illness which has had made her life (out of school and anything that was her life) consist primarily of pain, doctors, hospitals. What a time to need your faith, and this woman who said she would mentor and support our daughter in her faith journey has just disappeared.
Early on she would call our daughter near her birthday and say “we should go to lunch,” …but never follow up. She hasn’t even make an attempt to reach out in years. it is hurtful to our daughter and has her questioning Catholicism - not her faith, but Catholicism, specifically, since the absence is specifically due to the daughter’s illness. It is added to based on her horrific treatment at the hands of a Catholic school principal who was fired after 3 yrs of bullying not only her for being ill, but other children for all sorts of reasons. After the school finally stepped up and fired him there was no word to her - no apology for taking everything she loved, no attempt to help her, no contact. We learned of the firing from a parent whose child was also bullied and the cause finally for the firing (this family was the biggest donor to the school over many years). Our daughter doesn’t need yet another example of the horrors of what she sees as the condoned and habitual Catholic response to their own bad behaviors, institutional or otherwise: distract, look away, pray - but never, never deal with the problem, even if a child is being hurt. Caviat: … unless it will hurt the Church financially.
In the last thread, people went on in that pattern about everything BUT addressing the problem …“pray,” “use it as an opportunity…,” blah, blah. Does anyone have a real answer to removing this godparent?
One Catholic friend even suggested to this terribly ill child that “God especially loved her” to give her such a cross. It gets sicker by the minute and we want all poor role models of Jesus’ intent out of her life before we lose her entirely. Can we remove the godmother officially?